Domestic Violence Awareness Month: From One Who Lived It

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Thirty-eight years ago today, I married the man who would become my abuser. He had already altered the trajectory of my life, and our short, three-year marriage would continue to shift my life path in ways unimaginable. I usually try to ignore the date on this day, but October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month.

In keeping with the mission of this blog, I decided to confront the day differently, to share what I’ve written on domestic violence. Today, the links are in purple, the color we wear to remember those who suffer, suffered, or died at the hands of an abuser.

I doubt you can stomach all of these in one sitting, but if you want to know more about a serious topic in today’s world, any of these posts can be enlightening.

I pray that you will find a way to help someone in this situation. No one should live in fear of their family members or loved ones.

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How Do We Stop the Violence?


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By now, you have heard of the school shooting in Townville, SC. That is not far from where I live.

I’ve shared with you my morning prayer for loved ones who attend or work in schools. It hasn’t changed. I still pray it every single day.

But we need more to heal our country’s wounds.

Why does this keep happening?

Our country’s steady, fast-moving drift from faith has created an environment for violence. There was a time when children grew up aware of the sanctity of life, taught to respect others whether you liked them or not. Taught that God made man in His own image, and life was precious.

That way of life is gone.

People who claim faith and spew hatred are not Christians. Satan finds them and exploits them. People who have turned from, or never knew, faith provide an ever-widening field of weapons for Satan’s arsenal.

Satan is real and he attacks where he can.

Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.  I Peter 5:8

Have we, as a country, traveled too far from our faith, from our beliefs, that we can’t go back? I don’t know. I don’t have the answer.

How about you? How do we fix this?

Please share your thoughts in the comments. I’m inviting a discussion , one that provides insight and ideas, not accusations and hatred. Even if your idea seems small, it doesn’t matter. One person can make a difference.

How do we stop the violence?

Life Lessons From Our Favorite Disney Movies

lovecloudSomehow I ended up on an email list for Disney information.  I’m not sure how or why, and I definitely don’t need Disney baby items, but…the email advertising baby furniture included a link to a post about life lessons learned from Finding Nemo.  Curious, I followed the link and found a wonderful lesson to use with this insightful movie.

You can read the whole post here, and I encourage you to do so.

After reading it, though, I began to think about my favorite Disney movies.  I love movies, especially Disney ones, and my favorites have always been Beauty and the Beast and Sleeping Beauty.

I’ll be the first to admit that older movies might not offer much in the way of life lessons, but I did manage this nugget from Sleeping Beauty:

If you hide the ugly truth from your children, it might jump up and bite you.

My parents hid the ugliness of the world from me.  They thought they were protecting me. Then when I was confronted by the reality of a violent family, I had nothing useful to gauge its dangers by.  I used my experience reading romances to understand the situation.  Now, I’ve written previously about how many romances paint an enthralling picture of unstable relationships, so I won’t bother to repeat it here.  The point is, sometimes we shouldn’t hide the truth from our children.  They will find out elsewhere, and often by making a mistake that might be avoided otherwise.

My lesson from Beauty and the Beast is that women do not need a man to save them.  We’ve seen this shift in Disney movies over the last few decades, and I, for one, and am pleased to see this.

There is only one man who can save any of us.  Jesus.

What’s your favorite Disney movie and what lessons can you learn from it?