Forty-one years ago this month, I married the man who would become my abuser. He had already altered the trajectory of my life, and our short, three-year marriage would continue to shift my life path in ways unimaginable. I usually try to ignore the date when it comes around, but, ironically, October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month.
A few years ago, I decided to confront this memory differently, to share what I’ve written on domestic violence. Please be aware that these posts reflect on a very short part of my life close to forty years ago. I’ve spent the years since seeking to educate others on this issue. I won’t stop doing that until I’m gone, but, even then, I hope my words will live on to guide others to escape or avoid an abusive relationship.
Today, the links are in purple, the color we wear to remember those who suffer, suffered, or died at the hands of an abuser.
- Why Abuse Victims Stay
- Breaking the Cycle of Domestic Violence
- Life Isn’t Fair: When You Feel Trapped
- When the Physical Abuse Starts
- Domestic Violence: When Women Defend Against An Abuser
- Walking Away From Abuse
- What Do You Believe: Christians, Domestic Violence, and Divorce
- Navigating the Dark Path of Escape From Abuse
- Life After An Abusive Relationship
- Does the Abuse Stop After the Divorce?
- The Long Term Effects of Domestic Violence
- The Long Term Effects of Domestic Violence, Part 2
- Navigating Mountains and Valleys in Life
I doubt you can stomach all of these in one sitting, but if you want to know more about a serious topic in today’s world, any of these posts can be enlightening.
I pray that you will find a way to help someone in this situation. If there are multiple signs that make you suspect someone is in an abusive relationship, please speak to them. That said, do be careful how you do this. Abusers read their partners’ email, texts, and mail. They eavesdrop on phone calls. They track their whereabouts. None of this technology existed when I went through this. It’s another example of technology meant for good being twisted into something dangerous. Make sure you don’t endanger them.